Teens know so much but understand so little, all thanks to this google person.
Firstly, this post has a few choice words so I am warning you up front.
I have read somewhere that knowledge is power but sometimes knowledge is full of shit. With the internet so readily available and googling so easy to do, gaining access to information can sometimes come at a price. Even if your child doesn’t have access to google or you monitor their usage, the school yard is like a mini search engine in itself.
Sex ( very simplified to make my point) – boy meets girl. Boy likes girl and girl likes boy. They kiss. They kiss some more. They touch each other in places mum and dad said no one is to touch unless you say it is OK. Is it OK? Not sure but the Internet says some teens start at 13 years old so it must be OK. More touching. Think it must be time for sex and there is lots of information on google so shouldn’t be too hard (pardon the pun). Have sex. Then what?
The act of having sex is the easy part. She lies down, he jumps on, a little bit of moving and hopefully you hit the jackpot. Teenagers can find out how to have sex, probably how to have so-called good sex, but the Internet doesn’t tell you how to understand the emotions of sex.
Understanding what you really want and what your body, mind and heart really needs cannot be read on the bloody Internet. When you are a teenager, you think you know so much but I’m here to tell you that it is understanding the knowledge you gain that gives you real power.
Understanding intimacy only happens when you are experiencing it.
Understanding what your partners needs only happens by talking about it.
Understanding what is right for you only happens by experimenting and feeling comfortable to say no.
Understanding sexual a emotions like lust, desire, and desperation takes years to grasp, not just one or two sessions at hooking up.
Slow the fuck down. There is no hurry to grow up and be everything the Internet says you should be. There is no right or wrong way to experience sex either on your own or with your partner. Sex should be enjoyed and it should be fun but after it is all over, the emotions that result need to reflect this.
If you feel guilty? Stop
If it hurts? Stop
If you feel sad? Wait
If you feel nothing? Wait
Take the power of knowledge and make it your own. Feed it, grow it until you have all the power your body, mind and hearts needs to cope with the joy of sex.
Life is not like the bloody Internet. Understand this and you are on your way to gaining the power of knowledge.
Do you think google has all the knowledge?