Ways to stop screaming at home
I used to be a screamer. I felt sorry for my neighbours when my screaming started as I wondered if they ever thought someone was being murdered in the house. The sad thing is I don’t recall screaming before I had children. I had very little reason to scream in the past and then I had little people and scream in my present. I knew I needed to find ways to stop screaming at the kids as it wasn’t an affective way to get what I wanted.
So how do you stop screaming and still get your children to listen to you? Disciplining children at each new stage of growing up is like entering new territory every time. As a caring and responsible parent, hitting the kids is no longer acceptable and not really something I thought was an affective way of teaching children a lesson. So what else can you do that doesn’t involve yelling to help get your point across?
Here are 5 ways to stop screaming and yelling at your children and start getting back control:
- Pretend you are parenting in public. One way to avoid screaming and losing the plot is to parent like people are watching. This is a way to stay calm and in control, the ideal environment to sort out any problems. When you know others are watching you interact with your children, most people wouldn’t scream to get the point across, so start pretending you are being stalked.
- Remember who is the child and who is the adult. Kids are meant to behave like kids and this can be frustrating sometimes, especially when their behaviour doesn’t suit your mood. But put their behaviour into perspective and remember who is the grown up. Children watch how adults handle pressure situations and often copy the reaction.
- Try to help children to explain their emotions to avoid a back and forth screaming match. Asking a child why they are behaving in a certain way and how this is affecting you, can avoid constant yelling.
- Children learn from what they see. If you are constantly screaming and then wonder why your kids are constantly arguing or screaming back, take a look in the mirror first. If you change your behaviour, you may slowly see your children change the way they react to situations and the yelling matches will cease.
- Take some time out. Kids know how to break your spirit sometimes and push buttons until you know you are going to explode. Walk away and leave the situation. Head to another room and close the door until you have calmed down to continue to discussion. We are only human and deserve time out too.
No one wants to be known as the screaming banshee so find ways to stop screaming at children and start talking instead. If all else fails, sit down with a quiet glass of wine, it works for me.