Ahhh – I feel out of control, help me stay calm under pressure.
Staying calm under pressure is easier said than done, especially when you are a parent. Each day our kids throw a new challenge our way from explosive nappy action, to riding to school on their own to sitting their first exam. In order to teach our children to stay calm under pressure, we need to know how to do it first.
Life is getting busier everyday and with the assistance of modern technology, we are spending more hours working than playing. Naturally as our workload increases so too does the pressure associated with longer hours in the office and home, with some days even 24 hours doesn’t seem enough. Learning how to stay calm under pressure, especially when dealing with children who are being difficult or struggling themselves.
Here are 6 ways to stay calm under pressure:
- Start by putting things into perspective. It is easy to dramatise a situation when you are feeling stressed or anxious. When something doesn’t go right, first analyse the situation and put it into perspective and allow this to decide your stress levels.
- Understanding your own panic signals. When the pressure is on, our bodies have their own way of handling stress, turning the calmest person into a sweaty, nervous mess. Learn how your own body reacts to stressful situations and create techniques to work with them, not always fighting against these effects as this often makes them worse.
- Teach yourself to self sooth (just like you did with your baby). This is a little like meditation and involves deep breathing to assist the body to stay calm under pressure. When you are feeling irritated because your child is having their fourth tantrum today, taking a few deep breaths before responding allows the body to reduce the stress levels, clear the mind and prepare your response.
- Take your time before reacting. This works closely with the breathing. When a situation is in high alert, and the kids have tipped you over the edge, most people respond too quickly to end the situation. By taking a few extra seconds to think about your response, allow your body to calm down a little before dealing with the stressful environment.
- Try to avoid negative people. Easier said than done but the more you surround yourself with negative people, the more your energy moves from positive to negative. If you are in a negative frame of mind, your reaction to a difficult child will be defensive and this never ends well. I’ve tried many times and many times I have failed.
- Have automatic responses ready to go. Our children are often smarter than us and usually quick with their responses. Having a few automatic responses puts you ahead of the situation and hopefully gives you the upper hand to deal with the situation.
Staying calm under pressure when dealing with challenging child or a child in mid tantrum is possible with a little practise.
How do you stay calm under pressure?
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