I sat down and started to think of when I was a teenager and how I perceived myself and the world around me. I don’t recall getting a lot of advice but sometimes I wish I was given more information on growing up. Don’t get me wrong, I think some lessons in life need to be learnt the hard way, but not all. There is nothing wrong with giving advice to your daughter, however the manner in which this advice is given is the key.
Teenagers don’t like to be told what they are doing wrong. In fact most adults don’t like to be told what they are doing wrong either. Sometimes by simply having a conversation, the advice naturally comes up and instead of ‘telling’, we are ‘talking’.
Talking with your daughter from a young age, especially with the pieces of advice below, will only cement them into her natural self.
So I have devised a short list of 5 pieces of advice you can give your teenage daughter to help her as she moves into adulthood.
- If you are searching for that ONE special person in this world who can make you complete, look in the mirror. YOU are that one special person, you will always be that one special person who can make your life what you want it to be. So stop searching.
- Real friends are the ones who get the best out of you. It is wonderful having lots of friends, so choose those who want you to shine and want you to succeed no matter what.
- Your mum actually does know a few things about growing up too. I’m not saying she is always right (yes Ashlea I am not always right), but asking advice from your mum is not a bad thing. She can add another dimension to the situation.
- Having a boyfriend or partner does not create self-worth. You are not defined by the person you are with, you are defined by the person you are. Being alone is not a bad thing and does not mean you are not loved, it simply means you have not found someone who deserves your love yet.
- Get an education. This is so important girls to educate yourselves in many different areas and strive to be the best person you can be.
This is only the tip of many pieces of advice you can give your daughter. Let’s start with baby steps. I hope some of it helps.
cheers natalie xxxx