This blog is dedicated to a mother/daughter experience, so a topic on raising boys is a little unusual. However, after writing a couple of ‘Advice to your daughter’ posts, I have been asked to involve the beautiful boys in giving out advice.
I am raising boys – two in fact, aged 11 years and almost 8 years. Both of my boys are extremely different in all aspects of life – from size, academics and personality. What I would do for one of my boys, I would never consider doing for the other. For example, the 11-year-old remembers everything (not only in his life but in everyone else’s) so I would never spoon feed him information as he would look at me like I was strange. My nearly 8-year-old has blocked ears (I think anyway) as he hears nothing EVER. I need to tell him at least 4-5 times to do something and even then he forgets. Parenting is not an easy job.
So the advice is general, some relates to me, some advice I have received from beautiful friends of boys and other advice is based on research.
- Don’t let girls play you like a fool. Be kind to girls but if the kindness is not reciprocated, walk away.
- Use your strong mind and big hearty to make good decisions. By focusing on the positive with boys, and saying it in an encouraging way, aids in their decision making.
- Don’t be too hard on yourself but try to stop and think before you make decisions.
- Treat girls the way you would like a boy to treat you sister. If you would be upset by the way a boy is talking about a girl or treating her, do not repeat the behaviour.
- Boys need men in their life. Boys need good mates in their life.
- The world isn’t always fair and the best things do not always happen but whatever happens, make the best out of each situation.
- You don’t have to be good at sport.
- Change what you can to achieve YOUR goals but don’t dwell on the past – this cannot be changed.
- MOST IMPORTANT ADVICE … and this was from every woman I spoke to… Always call your Mum, always answer her text messages and always remember family is unconditional.
This is just the beginning of some advice we can give to our boys (and then men) in our lives.