Concentrate on what you can control – forget the other stuff
I was someone who always tried to have a plan so I could be ready for anything life put before me. I tried to “Concentrate on what you can control and then have a mental breakdown trying to control what you can’t”. It wasn’t until I saw one of my children stressing over the way someone else made them feel that I realised I had it all wrong.
Life can’t always be controlled but the way you let others make you feel can be. Sometimes you should spend all your energy focusing on what you can control and letting go of everything else.
Next time you’re stuck in traffic and you can feel yourself getting angry, ask yourself “Can I control the traffic?” – NO but I can control how I react to it.
Or when you’re running late for an appointment and you catch every set of lights, before you have a breakdown, decide whether you control the lights or your emotions.
Or your children are all arguing with each other and you have finally had enough so you scream louder than them and maybe go a little too far. Remember what is in your control and what is not as it helps when making decisions.
It is difficult when someone hurts you and hurts even more when you don’t truly understand why. Holding onto that hurt and allowing it to control you, only generates negative emotions. Both of these things are in your control – holding onto what others think of you and holding onto the emotions that follow.
I wanted my children to learn how to let things go and stop holding onto what you can’t control but stay in tune with what you can control. It is when you finally let go of parts of your life that no matter how hard you work, you cannot change it. So why work so hard and cause yourself stress. It’s time to let go and concentrate on what you can control.
Here are 20 things you can control:
- Talking to yourself positively
- The way you talk to those around you
- The amount of physical exercise you give your body
- The food you nourish your body with
- Your level of honesty
- Whether you are a listener or a talker
- How often you smile every day
- The time you spend worrying about irrelevant things
- The amount of love you give your children
- Whether you see the glass half empty or half full
- How mindful you want to be
- How you make other people feel about themselves
- Having a generous heart
- Allowing yourself to ask for help
- Offering help in return
- Whether you judge people or accept people
- Having an open heart to receive true love
- Whether you believe in yourself
- Your words
- Your thoughts
Are you ready to let go of what you can’t control and start focusing on what you can?
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