How do I teach my children to cope when they miss out on something, when at times I hate missing out too. Last weekend a group of friends have headed off ton a girls night out but for reasons out of my control, I was unable to party with them – and my FOMO set in.
FOMO (fear of missing out) is now a word used to describe what many young (and older) people suffer from. With technology at our fingertips, we are constantly being updated on what our family and friends are up to. These snippets are exactly that.. snippets of their lives. No-one wants to put an updated status of …’I just ate dinner of mash and sausages’… BORING. So everyone only puts the good things that happen, and sometimes these good things maybe slightly exaggerated too.
I don’t like to miss out on the fun things in life, whether it be with my family or friends, but I understand that I cannot be a part of everything. However, it is always nice to asked. Cherishing in the moment is the most important thing, not wondering what I might be missing out on. When I am with my children, it is their time with me, and that is something that I do cherish.
- Enjoy the moment you are in. If you are having coffee with a friend, do not check what other people are doing. If you are watching one of your children playing sports, do not start liking pictures on instagram. Live in the moment you are in.
- Stop checking in all the time. No one needs to know every movement you make, just like you do not want to know every movement your friends are making.
- Reduce the number of people you follow on social media. It’s exciting when you first start to join in on a new social platform, but do you really want to know what your cousins best friend is really doing?
- Have a cut off time every night for technology. Facebook never sleeps, people are tweeting 24 hours a day, hundreds of beautiful pictures appear on Instagram every second, so you have to learn to shut it off and forget about everyone else and think about yourself only.
- Learn that you WILL miss out on lots of things in life, ALL the time. There is nothing you can do about it. Trust that the people you have surrounded yourself with love you and want you in their lives.
Fear of Missing Out is very real, especially in my generation. We live on technology and our lives our ruled by social media. I know that when I don’t have access to the Internet, I always seem to miss lots of Instagram and Facebook updates. I don’t think that I necessarily fear missing out on things but I do think that I can stress about missing important information. It’s so easy to miss photos, videos or messages that everyone talks about and it can only take one day to fall behind on what’s trending.
FOMO (fear of missing out) can be very real amongst many people. Not being able to join in on every little thing in life can be a major problem for lots of people. Since I have siblings, I see them do things on their own without me so I am used to it. As well as siblings, I have a massive family so missing out on things hasn’t always been an issue for me. I do think that having easy access to social networking that allows you to see what other people are doing, makes it easier to feel as though you are missing out.
The instantaneous jealousy that people can feel from seeing people do things that they wish they could do is probably a lot more common than missing out. I think that many people do have a fear of missing out and whether or not it is just feeling as if they aren’t wanted, it is a real thing for some people. For other people though I think it is more of a fear of being left behind and not knowing what is going on. If I were to classify myself into one of these fields I would definitely say that I have a fear of being left behind.