Hang in there mum
Being a parent is not an easy job. Each stage you move through, generates new and often wonderful surprises. However, when you become a parent, no one tells you about the horrible and challenging things you may need to get through – DAY IN DAY OUT. If you are having a bad day, we want to say to you “Hang in there mum”. I know there are many dads out there wondering why they are not included in the ‘Hang in there’ theme, but today we talk to the mothers who are hanging on by a thread.
- For the mother who has a new-born baby that is struggling to breast feed. You know it should be natural to breast feed your baby but neither of you seem to be able to work it out. Each day you wake and try to feed and each day your baby struggles to accept you. Don’t take it personally. Take the pressure off yourself to try to be the perfect mum with a new-born and never be afraid to ask for help. Hang in there mum.
- For the mother who has not slept enough hours in the past few weeks and the exhaustion is overwhelming. Each day and each night are a blur of tears, often your own, with the realisation that the end is no longer in sight. Walk away from your child, let them cry for a while. Your sanity is paramount in the survival of your little family. Ask for time out – YES you deserve it. Hang in there.
- For the mother who has constant eyes glaring at them as their toddler has another tantrum in public. Every day you leave the house, hoping, praying your toddler will just do as you ask, only for an hour. As you walk through the supermarket, you feel the tantrum rising and once again, people begin to stare. Why do some mums make this parenting thing look so easy? Hang in there.
- For the mother who drops her child at school every day knowing they are anxious and do not want to leave your side. Each morning the tears begin, the begging to stay with you, to love you and never leave you. Each morning when you leave them in safe hands of the teachers you can not stop the sickening feeling in your stomach that you have let your child down. Hang in there.
- For the mother who knows their child is different to all the other children. You try to convince yourself they will be alright as they are fighter. You tell yourself you can handle having a child that is different to all their friends but some days you can’t stay positive and you fall in a heap. It’s OK to have days like this and understand that guilt won’t help your child. Hang in there mum.
- For the mother who has just found out their child is being bullied at school. You have spent every day of their life protecting them, teaching them resilience and to be the best person they can be. So why are there children out there who hate your child and want to see them hurt. Hang in there.
- For the mother who has to deal with depression on a daily basis, not her depression but that of her precious child. You have given them all the love you had inside you. You have been there for them. You have shown them all the wonderful things life has to offer. Yet they struggle every day and deep down you know this may be a struggle they face their entire life. Hang in there mum.
Every mother tries her best but sometimes life doesn’t work out the way we planned. For every mother out there, if you need help – ask for it today. It is not an easy job and sometimes not that rewarding either.
Please try to hang in there.