I have always had a love affair with romance. All the typical clichéd gestures of love make my heart flutter.
When I was:
- 16yrs-old all I wanted was a boyfriend who could win me a giant teddy bear at the Royal Melbourne Show
- 20 yrs-old I wanted my boyfriend to tell the world of his undying love for me in bold writing in the newspaper on Valentines Day.
- 25yrs-old I had matured a little and if I received fresh flowers delivered to my workplace I knew I would be the envy of my colleagues.
- 28yrs-old there was a little pressure on how my future husband would propose – written in the skies above or during a
major sporting match where everyone would see.
- 33yrs-old I desperately wanted my husband to surprise me with a dirty weekend away, without the children.
- 38yrs-old my craving for downtime to sit on the couch with a box of chocolates and fresh flowers delivered by my hubby was more than enough.
Now that I am 42yrs-old, romance no longer looks as it use to. I have spent my entire life waiting for a man to make me feel like a princess. I have shed many tears because a man didn’t live up to my expectation of romance. I have wasted many hours analyzing why a man has not lived up to my expectation.
So at 42 I decided it was time to have an affair. I knew who I wanted to have an affair with and I knew all the reasons why the affair would work. I wanted someone who would always have my back and support all my crazy decisions. I wanted someone who saw my inner beauty. I wanted someone who knew what they wanted in life and was happy to share it with me.
The gorgeous fresh flowers delivered to my house was the beginning of the end, my long awaited affair had begun– with myself. I realised I didn’t need a man to make my heart flutter. I didn’t need someone else to determine whether I deserved that giant teddy bear or that box of chocolates. I was in control of me and of making me feel special, because I am special.
My hubby is a beautiful man and has always played the romantic part well. The pressure is off now as I can romance myself and surprise myself with a fresh bunch of flowers whenever I needed an extra smile in my day.
This post was sponsored by fresh flowers.com.au – who are an online Sydney based business but they also deliver flowers in Melbourne and other cities. However all thoughts and ideas are our own and at Our Parallel Connection we take all sponsored posts seriously, only accepting those we either use or truly believe in.
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Haha, perfect- who better to have an affair with than the only person who truly knows you?
Amy @ HandbagMafia recently posted…A New Minister for Women?
I finally know myself well enough and I am happy with what I see. About bloody time huh?
Nat you never fail to surprise me. I can truly say I had never considered sending myself flowers. I think you and I would be great romance partners – the chocs and lounge time with a good book or movie. Mel xx #fybf
Melanie Greenhalgh recently posted…How was your day?
I have never sent myself flowers before either. I have bought them but never had the excitement of having some delivered. Well now I can say that I am happy to romance myself with flowers, choices, red wine and my book – perfect don’t you think.
What a lovely post!
Janet aka Middle Aged Mama recently posted…Perms are Making a Comeback!
Thanks Janet, have you ever sent yourself some flowers? Go on, its actually quite a lot of fun.
Gorgeous post. We have a small charity event coming up at the end of October and I’ve been thinking fresh flowers would make a nice addition to the prize table. I will definitely have to head over and case them. Wonder if they deliver to Perth?
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Thanks Raychael. Yes they do have an office in Perth and flowers are all beautiful and really reasonably priced too. Thanks for casing me out.. lol
Awww, cute!
Thanks Leanne. Send yourself some flowers too. its lots of fun (and a little cheeky)
Might just do,that …lovely idea Natalie and an enjoyable post
Thanks Mum, send yourself some poppies…
Well done! I’m all for romancing ourselves and not looking outside ourselves for validation! Beautiful flowers and such a great post! 🙂
Min@WriteoftheMiddle recently posted…The story of a sea change
Thanks lovely Min. The next thing I am going to do is shout myself a nice dinner out with just me and my thoughts.
I’ve never sent myself flowers but I do buy them for myself every week. Because I’m worth it!
Sammie @ The Annoyed Thyroid recently posted…She’s So Inspiring – Emily Hawker
Thats beautiful Sammie. I have bought myself flowers a few times but I think weekly is perfect.. just a little thing that can make your day so much better.
this is a brilliant idea and you are so right who knows you better. On another note I think we must be having a parallel connection as for about the last month in all these link ups I seem to be next to you each time!
Vicki @ Boiled Eggs & Soldiers recently posted…Honey Oat Bars, buttery, oaty & delicious
LOL thats is freaky Vicki, maybe the gods are trying to put us together for some reason. Lets think and get back to each other.
Sending yourself flowers is a lovely idea. I used to add reminders to my Hubby’s mobile phone’s calendar or write in his work diary to buy me flowers. On the odd occasion (he doesn’t believe in buying flowers on Valentine’s day) or anniversary/birthday he might surprise me with a bunch. Usually its my daughter suggesting to Daddy, “Can we buy Mummy some flowers?” now. 🙂
Julie @ Off to the park recently posted…Playground antics and getting older
What a great idea. The craziest thing is that I see another woman buying flowers for herself as empowered and gorgeous but I still shy away from doing it for myself… Thank you for sharing.
Becky from BeckyandJames recently posted…Not Horrible
Baby step sBecky. When you are at the supermarket next time, buy a bunch in store.
I think every woman should have an affair with herself at least once – as for flowers… well they should be a regular thing 😉 xx
Sonia Life Love Hiccups recently posted…Are you a Serial People Pleaser Like I Am?
Thanks Sonia, I just might start to make ti a regular thing.
I love fresh flowers and yes, I buy them for myself as well! That way I get exactly the ones I love and the pressure is off my husband! Happy wife, happy hubby!
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Good for you Ingrid.. I love it
I think taking the pressure off the expectations of romance will make it all the sweeter when it does happen. I love the idea of being able to buy the flowers you want, when you want them, rather than relying on someone else to do so – very empowering!
Kirsty @ My Home Truths recently posted…I must confess…I’m an anytime sort of gal!
It actually really is. I had never done anything like this but now I am ready to head to the movies on my own and celebrate me time
Haha…what a clever post!!!!
Thanks chickie
How empowering, enjoy the flowers.
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Thanks chickie
I love buying fresh flowers for myself! Such a special treat and instantly makes me happy. I’m also lucky my husband loves to buy flowers, especially when I’m feeling down. I’ve bought from freshflowers.com for a friend who was going through a hard time. It was next day delivery and she was so surprised and thrilled when she got them!
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You’re a beautiful friend to look out for your friends. Love flowers and ready for more … Off I am shopping
Setting up your own flower delivery sounds like fun. I love the idea of being able to pick them out and still get to enjoy them. Good luck on your self affair! It seems like it is going really well already. I think I may take a page out of your book and buy myself some flowers.
With your own flower shop… why not have heaps of flowers all the time.
WoW!
Really Nice post, I contineously read this post and can’t stop.
Love your self is best quote. I think In real life we can’t apply this thing.
Flowers is best gifts to start dating and I’t’s cure as Gift.
Thanks for checking in on my love yourself wish. I still buy myself flowers every week.