When I look in the mirror, I see a woman with many flaws, but I also see a woman who can offer the world so much more than just her reflection.
Our society places so importance on beauty, whether you agree or not, it surrounds us everyday. It is difficult to get away from judging the reflection in the mirror when society has already judged me. Am I pretty enough? Am I skinny enough? Do I have the right colour eyes? Am I wearing the latest fashion? This list could go on forever.
When I watched this campaign by Dove – I wondered which door I would walk through. Am I looking at beauty as only the physical body and not the beauty found inside?
How do I teach my children to stop judging themselves when they look in the mirror? I need to look in the mirror and see the person that I know I am, not the person on the outside but the REAL person.
I need to start with myself. When I look in the mirror this is the Natalie I see:
- A good mother – my children have taught me how to be in touch with all my emotions and for this I thank them. I know I am a good mum, I am a loving mum and I take this mothering job seriously because they are my world. Yes I make mistakes but when it comes to being a mum, I always learn from these mistakes and so I can give them the best mother they deserve.
- I am loyal – when you have me on your side, I am there for life. This can also be my down fall as I get hurt when the loyalty is not reciprocated. I set the bar very high in this area – too high probably – and I need to learn that not everything believes in this as strongly as I do.
- I am a strong role model to my children’s friends – I work very hard at this as I want my kids to surround themselves with like minded friends. My heart breaks is one of their friends is not coping with life and I always open myself up to be available for them.
- I am not a very good wife – I do all the things a wife should do – raise children, keep the house, work, love my partner and be part of a team. However, I know I don’t give my husband the attention I probably should, I take him for granted more than I should and I mentally check out of our relationship when things get tough (instead of working harder to keep it together).
- I am too sensitive – on the outside I always appear to be confident and in control, and often this is the case. However, I get hurt more than I care to admit. I have struggled with many friends over this, some I have now let go as they were not healthy for me. I am getting better at this as I made myself a promise on New Years Eve that I needed to put my beliefs first – not those of others.
- I am protective of my family – I come from a big family and I am lucky that we all love and care for each other. The only people in the world I have ever really let my guard down completely is with my family as I know they will never hurt me.
- I can’t let people get too close to me – when friends get too close, I slowly push them away. I don’t know why I do this but I am very protective of my feelings and have struggled with this for years. Sadly I still do this with my husband.
This is the person I see when I look in the mirror, some good, some bad but they make up the person that I really am.
What do you see when you look in the mirror?