You would think as a blogger and a social media communicator that I would be awesome at communication. And when it comes to blogging and social media, I am always open and honest with communicating. However, when it comes to my marriage, I am not so good at it.
We have been married for over 17 years now and have four happy, healthy kids. We are busy like most families and spending time together is not always a priority for me. I can usually find something else that needs to be done instead of working on my marriage. It should just happen naturally shouldn’t it?
Apparently the answer to this is NO. Marriage doesn’t just work itself out it needs a lot of work to keep it all together.
I am a fairly level headed woman and it takes a lot to get me really angry. I am more inclined to let things build up and up and then finally explode. Once I have reached my anger threshold, I stay there and struggle coming back down for a while.
My husband is the opposite. He had a short, fiery temper but he calms back down just as quickly. He also doesn’t hold any grudges.
So if we argue, I will hold onto that argument and I could go days without speaking because it suits me. In my mind it is just one less thing I have to do. Whereas my hubby hates it when we are not communicating properly. He will make sure we sort our crap out so we can move on with our lives.
With communication being one of the most important aspects in a successful marriage, it is my husband that wins the gold medal in this area. He is much better at communicating with me than I am with him. He is much better at making sure we spend time together as a couple (without the kids) so our relationship stays strong and healthy too. He is much better at reminding me that I also need time alone (or without him and the kids) and that I do not always have to say yes to everything.
Honestly, if it wasn’t for my husband, we would be getting divorced.
Thank you hubby for keeping our lives on the right path and making sure we too don’t become another sad statistic.
Who is better at communicating in your family?
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