I must admit that as a little girl, I always wanted to become a mother. I loved playing with my dolls, I loved playing mothers & fathers (even creating a game with pegs) and I loved playing with my Barbie dolls. I was a girlie girl and dreamt of the day I could hold my own baby in my arms to love forever.
Lucky for me I did become a mother to 4 beautiful children –
There are some things about being a mum that I just don’t like, maybe because I am no good at it or maybe because I’m not that type of mum.
- I’m not that kind of mum who plays with her children. When my kids were little, I hated sitting on the floor and pretending to be interested in playing with tea sets or driving cars around the tracks. I think the reason I had so many kids was so they had someone else to keep them amused.
- I’m not that kind of mum who loves to bake beautiful treats. I love the idea of baking and sharing delicious treats with my children, all beautifully decorated like I see on Pinterest. But my treats look more like this:
- I’m not that kind of mum who enjoys taking her kids to the park to play in the sunshine, push them on a swing and get fresh air. Even though my children are probably too old for playing in a park, I hated it then and I hate it now.
- I’m not that kind of mum who takes her cooking seriously. I make a huge effort to cook healthy meals for my family (in fact as we speak I am slow cooking corned beef) but I just can’t spend every waking hour worrying about what they eat.
- I’m not that kind of mum who wants to dress like a typical mum. Crazy as it sounds, I see too many women become a mother and change everything, including the way they present themselves. I want to dress funky, I want to be fashionable, I want my kids to think I am a trendy mum.
- I’m not that kind of mum who refuses a glass of wine or 2 during the week because it is not the appropriate thing to do. It can be my only saviour some days.
- I’m not that kind of mum who watches her children train for sports. I just don’t see the point. I love watching their actual games but their practise session – I can think of a million other ways to spend my time.
- I’m not that kind of mum who reads up on the content of a movie before taking my children to see it. Don’t get me wrong, MA15+ is not suitable for my 8yr old but I am sick of watching kids movies (I have watched too many over the past 15yrs).
- I’m not that kind of mum who dotes over her children. I say “Suck it up Princess (or Prince)” all too often. If you don’t like then tough luck. That’s life huh!
- I’m not that kind of mum who has never smacked her child on the bottom. When my children were little and they were either in danger or having a tantrum over something that is not negotiable (like wearing a seatbelt), I had no problem smacking on the bottom. I think my kids have turned out pretty good too.
Things I love that may go against the “mother handbook 2015”
- I love to drink wine (or vodka or cider), whenever and with who ever
- I will swear if the situations warrants it
- I will be friends with my children, keeping up with the gossip and latest trends
- I love watching reality TV shows and bagging everyone with my children
- I love movie night on a Saturday night where we over indulge in every bit of junk food you can think of
- I love having girls weekends away and I do not miss my children at all
- I love having a tantrum back to my child, cause I know I can do it better.
- I love telling my children that I know everything, and eventually I will find out… so spill the beans kid.. “what have you done wrong?”
Maybe I am a typical mum and I am just being too hard on myself.
Read about another mothers honest idea on parenting here.
Is there anything that you do as a mum that you never thought you would do?
My mum is a pretty cool mum. She doesn’t do everything the way a stereotypical mother does on TV or in the movies. Here are a few things that she does that is different to what I’ve seen on screens.
- The first thing that comes to mind when I think of what my mum does is the way she talks to me. I am nearly 15 and that is exactly the way I feel when I talk with my mum. I know there are some parents who talk to their teenagers as if they’re little kids but my mum isn’t one and I am thankful for it.
- The second thing that my mum does even just a little bit differently to other mums is coach my sister and I in basketball teams. I don’t think I know many other mums who coach, especially basketball.
- One thing that my mum does that is quite handy is tell us when we aren’t good at something. As much as it might suck to be told you suck at something (aka singing), it is nice to know what you can’t do before you embarrass yourself. I know lots of mums who don’t tell their kids when they aren’t great at something and when you get to my age, it isn’t a good thing.
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