Have your kids read what you wrote online?
I am a blogger and have been blogging for almost 3 years. Recently I wrote a blog post called “ Is it wrong to have a favourite child?” It is an opinion piece and I expected to get a reaction from this blog post – both agreeing and disagreeing with me. I never expected to read what some people wrote online and if their children read what they wrote, they would be ashamed.
I am not going to go into the details of the post, check it out for yourself and feel free to share your opinion back with me. I’d like to share with you just how nasty, immature and ironic some people who sit on a keyboard can be. These same people would be the first to stand up in a room and shout “ MY CHILD IS BEING BULLIED ONLINE.”
Let me share a few with you. I have blurred out the faces and names to protect the children who are associated with the owners of these accounts:
So, if your kids read what you wrote online, they would be ashamed.
These opinions are better ones, and they totally disagree with the post (oh and maybe they should check their spelling first):
Let’s discuss a few things about this post:
- My children (I actually have 4 kids for those who read the post), ALL read the post before it went live. We all laughed, joked and ALL 4 told me they knew they were really the favourite child. OMG – my kids are all bloody resilient kids and understood the nature of the post. My kids (ages 9, 12, 14, 16 – 2 boys/2 girls) felt “normal’ when we talked about how some days I annoy the crap out of them and they don’t like me very much. This doesn’t mean they love me less or that dad was now the favourite, it simply meant they didn’t like as much at that time/day. SMART KIDS huh?
- Some days one or all of my kids piss me off. Sometimes it’s me and other times it’s them. Either way, we are honest with each other and share how we feel. This must make me a bad mum huh?
- I am not good at many things in life but one thing I pride myself on is being an awesome mum. And I am. I would never claim that I know more than the mum sitting next to me (cause seriously the older my kids get the less I seem to know about parenting) but I do know that if it works for your little family unit and everyone is happy, keep doing what you’re doing. Calling a mother a BITCH because you don’t agree is not really what we want to teach our children, is it?
- This was an opinion piece. Definition of opinion – a view or judgment formed about something, not necessarily based on fact or knowledge. When someone has an opinion, you have every right to agree, disagree or completely ignore (if it’s so outrageous). It’s the way you go about it. Would you accept your children commenting the way others have done here?
- Before putting yourself out there, actually read what has been written. Pretty logical I know but I would bet many commenters didn’t actually read the post. Does that make me a shit mum or them a nasty person?
- I showed my children these nasty, unacceptable comments to teach them that some adults can be mean. If I ever saw my children speak like this online, I would be mortified, outraged and disgusted. This is not how I bring my children up (favourite or not favourite) and I am proud at how they reacted to such vile comments.
- If we went out for coffee and we disagreed on something, would sit opposite me and call me a bitch or would you share your differing opinion in a mature way?
- Monkey see, monkey do. Have an opinion, that is the beauty of having a voice online but show others some respect, INCLUDING YOUR OWN CHILDREN, by not dropping the “bitch’ or ‘rot in hell’ crap. You are the teacher, they are the student.
- Is it wrong that I sometimes call my kids ‘arseholes’ to their face? Another bad parenting 101 lesson I have not mastered yet.
Next time you read a blog post that you don’t agree with, please share your opinion but write it like your children will be reading what you have to say. If you think it is acceptable for them to read it and also write the same thing, please hit SEND.