Making friends at high school can actually be a lot of fun. Starting high school is daunting for most teenagers, especially when you are going to a school where you do not know many people. ‘How am I ever going to make new friends?’ is a common thought of many teenagers but it doesn’t have to be as scary as you think.
My first day of high school was the first day I was going to school without my friends. When it came to deciding where to go to school from Year 7 onwards, I had chosen to go somewhere different to where all my friends were going and it was scary. Whilst I was still beyond excited at the prospect of starting a new high school (something every student wants from Grade 1), I was very nervous because it would be the first day I had ever gone to school without knowing my friends would be there.
Two years later and I am about to start Year 9 at the same school with the best group of friends I could ask for. This blog is about how to make the transition from making friends at primary school to making friends at high school, without being too nervous about school. On my first day of Year 7 I didn’t walk in and have instant friendships with every in my class, it was a gradual thing.
Here are the best 5 tips for teenagers or tweens (as mum would say) on making friends at high school :
1. First off, don’t worry that you will be all alone. Chances are, you didn’t do a drastic move like I did and you will know at least one person going to your school. If this doesn’t apply to you, or the people moving with you are people you don’t like, then don’t panic about being alone on your first day. Relax and realise that many people are in the same boat you are.
2. Introduce yourself. I’m sure your parents have said this to you, especially if you are nervous. You might just write it off as being stupid but it really does work. You can’t form a friendship without knowing their name. As well as a way of starting off a conversation, introducing yourself can help people remember you better than just trying to remember a face.
3. Find a common interest, by asking heaps of questions. Once you have introduced yourself the next thing to do is continue on with the conversation. I find that finding something you have in common is a quick and easy way to bond with someone. Did you watch ‘Pretty Little Liars last night?’ I love Ansel Elgort, especially in ‘The fault in our stars?’ It’s very easy to be friends with people when you like the same things, it means you can never run out of things to talk about. It isn’t necessary to have everything in common but most friendships are based on similarities.
4. Expand your horizons. Once you have found at least one person who you can sit with at lunchtime, try find more. If you’re a social butterfly like me, you won’t be able to settle with having only one friend. I find that if you work with the first friend you made it becomes a lot easier to find a group of people similar to you.
5. Join extra curricular activities, and as many as you can possibly handle. Most schools will be very helpful towards Year 7’s, especially those who haven’t quite found their place at school. For the first few weeks, try as many activities as you can to see what you like and where you fit most, meeting lots of interesting people along the way.
Check out TeenVogue too for other great advice on getting ready for high school and tips on making friends at a new high school.