As a mother, all I want to do is protect my children from the negativities in this world. I don’t want to wrap them up in cotton wool, but I want to save them from being hurt – both emotionally and physically. Last night I had a reality check. My little bubble of protection burst as I realised no matter how good (or bad) a job I do as a parent at home, outside influences will always be invited in. This reality check I must accept and work with.
I was privileged to be invited to a #dvforum on family violence hosted by the wonderful Giaan Roony, and with guest speakers such as Australia of the year Rosie Batty and the Dept Sup Rod Jouning from the Australian Police. There are facts on family violence I already knew but hid them in the denial part of my brain. Some interesting facts on family violence in Australia:
- 14 women have died in Australia THIS year from family violence
- 1 in 3 women have been touched by physical or emotional abuse.
- family violence is one of the leading causes of homelessness in women
- It is all about power and control and a sense of entitlement a man believes he has
Family violence is not a problem for a few, it is not a problem for women, it is not a problem for men, it is a problem for everyone. The reality check is family violence does not discriminate, from the business woman to the school teacher to the stay at home mum. Chances are with the stats of 1 in 3 women, you know someone who is being physically or emotionally abused, and ashamed to do anything about it.
Family violence has become an epidemic in Australia with over 65,000 cases last year that were reported to police. The reported cases are on the rise but according to the police, there could be as many as 40,000 more cases which never see the light of day. Very scary stats.
What is needed to alter these stats is a major overhaul of our culture. Equality for the sexes in all aspects of life. Rosie Batty who lost her son to family violence, shared not only her story but her thoughts on changing this cultural mindset. She said her her ex-partners desire for power and control was greater than the love he had for his child. Very powerful words.
Here are some quotes tweeted by bloggers:
This is one of those topics that people do not like to talk about but unfortunately a reality check is needed and we need to have these conversations. Men need to have conversations with other men. Fathers need to talk with their sons. Sporting clubs need to get on board to alter the stereotypical ideas of what a ‘real man’ is all about. Women need to be supportive so victims feel safe to come forward.
As my children grow, I do not know who they will meet and ultimately what will happen in their lives. My protective bubble burst last night as the reality check set in. But I am not afraid to talk about it if it means I may be able to help my children and your children one day.
Have you ever had a reality check and scared of what might be?
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