Over the past couple of years, I have learnt more about myself than ever. From an outsiders point of view, I would come across as a confident woman who had her shit together. And probably I did most of the time. It was what was happening inside of me that I struggled with. I was in constant turmoil with myself, hating who I was and striving to be something that I was not.
When depression set in I knew I needed to take back some control and learn who I really was to make me happy. I decided the best way to learn was to see myself through someone else’s eyes, not my own.
So my journey began to learn more about me.
Seeing myself through my husband’s eyes!
This man chose me to spend his life with, share his love and be his best friend. My husband is a kind man who has a generous heart and a funny soul. Why would someone who loves me so deeply choose a woman who was also not kind with a generous heart? I knew that I also shared these wonderful characteristics and this made me a beautiful woman. My husband has taught me so much and for this, I will be forever grateful.
Seeing myself through my children’s eyes!
I know this sounds very cliché but I have been blessed with four gorgeous children. They truly are the loves of my life. They are all very different in personalities, in the way they each look at life and their dreams. However, they all love with tremendous passion and care with an abundance of empathy. Each child shares a strong bond with me that runs so deep, it often makes me burst with pride. My children see the world for what they can share with it, not what they can take. Why would I have been blessed with such amazing people if I wasn’t a beautiful woman who cared deeply and loved the world she lived in.
Seeing myself through my families eyes!
I come from a big family and we all have created wonderful lives and chosen beautiful partners. We share an understanding that life gets busy and sometimes we may not always say the words, but we each know that the words will always he heard. My family are my tribe and I have such an awesome and encouraging tribe. Why would I be part of this wonderful tribe if I wasn’t a beautiful person and deserved to be here? My family has taught me that I am a beautiful woman with a kind heart which makes me who I am today.
Seeing myself through my friend’s eyes!
For the most part, I have chosen well. Friends are like the family your choose for yourself. I have surrounded myself with some of the most amazing, inspirational and devoted people who I feel lucky when they have loved me back. My friends have allowed me to make decisions about myself and not judged me along the way. The friends who have left my life were there for a reason and I have learnt so much from them. The friends who are here for a lifetime, thank you for sticking around. These people have shown me I am a beautiful woman and deserve all I attract in life.
It is a wonderful exercise to learn how to see yourself through someone else’s eyes. Remove the internal negativity we often see and look outside of yourself.
Linking up with Kylie Purtell for #IBOT