Teenage Hormones – When the good turns ugly
Something has to be wrong with my teenager. One day they are happy and loving life. The next day they are screaming how they hate their life and would rather be dead. When teenage hormones are out of control, how does a parent gain the control back?
An out of control teenager is one of the greatest challenges in modern day, and the secrets of understanding how their mind works baffles most people. As a parent of a teenager, finding ways to cope with teenage hormones and the irrational behaviour that often comes with it, is a daily commitment.
Here we have found 6 ways for parents to cope with confusing behaviour and potentially understand teenage hormones:
- Keep a daily diary. Each day write down a few words on how your teenage has handled the day, even if the day has been pretty uneventful. Teenage hormones don’t make them crazy every day, so by keeping a diary for at least a month, often patterns occur and this can helpful when trying to control the mood swings. Note times of the day and the mood your teen is in each day.
- Identify different moods. It’s not only teens that have mood swings or down days. Understanding and categorising the major moods your teenager goes through is the first step in working with your teen to bring back a little control.
- Determine what makes them genuinely happy. As scary as teenagers can be, deep down they still want to be loved, be happy and feel secure. Watching your teens behaviour throughout the day or week, helps establish a pattern of what really makes them feel good and pisses them off.
- It’s all about teens. This age is a very selfish age and they mainly care about what effects them. When parents understand teenagers see life through the words ‘me me me‘, it can alter the out of control selfish behaviour and turn it into a normal teenage mood swing.
- Take a little time every day to just be there. Forcing teenagers to communicate when and where you want, is like expecting a toddler to sit in front of a bowl of lollies and eat none. Teenagers can sense when they are be forced into something and this is when they often shut down. Just letting your teen know you are there if they want to talk is what they really need.
- Pick your battles. Unless you want to end up in a mental asylum, pick the battles you wish to fight. Work out what you are willing to let go and pretend never happened and what you hold as high priority, often it’s those that conflict our values.
When teenage hormones are out of control, it’s the parents who need to try to establish some control back. They are just children desperate to be adults but without the understanding of how to do, all he while under control of hormones.