For every mother with girls
Time is going by so quickly. It was only yesterday (well actually 16 years ago) that I started this journey as a mother. Ashlea is my eldest and turned 16 years old over the weekend and I am an emotional wreck. I have spent many hours worrying about her, crying for her, loving her, disciplining her, caring for her and just being with her. As a mother with girls I am learning every day just how relationships change over the years and it’s not a bad thing, just a challenge to accept the changes.
My relationship with my teenage daughter is very strong and I am lucky that we get a long so well. However, as they years have gone by, our relationship has changed and continues to change. I am no longer the main person in my teens life – raising daughters is an emotional journey. Sometimes I just want things to be the way they were when she was a little girl.
Before you were born, I lost twin babies and I never thought I would feel the love a mother feels for her child. I was wrong. You awoke a heart inside me I never knew existed. You started my journey of mothering and for this I will always be grateful as I am a better woman today for having my children.
You entered this world perfect. Perfect in every way, at least to me. I fell in love at first sight and I knew we would be forever in each others lives. My precious daughter was here and I was elated by what I had achieved. Each night I would touch your skin and say “Mummy loves you”.
When you were a toddler, you would spend all your time helping me around the house. You loved spending time with me and just being in my company. We giggled, baked cakes and shared special girlie time playing happy family. Each night when I tucked you in bed, I would touch your skin and whisper “Mummy loves you”. You always said you loved me too.
When you started at school, I knew you were destined to someone fantastic. Your love for learning was obvious and each day you would come home and tell me every little thing that happened, keeping me in the loop. You loved being with your new friends but I was still the most special person in your life. I was mum. We were the best of friends and every night I would touch your skin as I whispered “Mummy love you”. You loved me more was often your response.
Becoming a teenager wasn’t as scary as I thought it would be as you were still my little girl. We shared many hours sitting on the couch, giggling over life and loving our girlie chats. We often headed out on the weekends for hot chocolates and a little retail therapy. We were the best mother & daughter team around and I thought this would never change. Each night I still touched your skin and whispered “I love you” and you always said the same words back. My world was perfect.
As you have grown and matured into the most beautiful
teenager young lady, I know I am lucky to have you as my daughter. Our relationship has changed and I am learning to accept it. We are still best friends but my position in your life has moved. I love that you have found wonderful and supportive friends. I love that you are confident to take steps away from what you know.
- I am no longer the one you confide first when things are getting tough.
- I am no longer the one you share all your secrets with.
- I am no longer that person.
And that is OK. You have to grow and mature and be the woman you need to be. I have taught you independence and now you are independent. I have taught you good values and they shone through every day. I have taught you to be a strong woman and your strength is inspirational. I cannot teach you all this and then hold you back because I am not ready to let you go.
Thank you for teaching me to be a stronger woman.
Thank you for teaching me to have a kinder heart
Thank you for teaching me what pure love is.
This is for every mother with girls from babies to toddlers to tweens to teenagers.