I am a glass half full kind of girl whereas my hubby is a glass half empty. Since I was a little girl, I have always believed in a ‘happy ever after’ type of scenario, and I don’t mean in the love stakes. I was taught that you can achieve anything if you put your mind to it.
But is that really true?
- Not everyone is going to achieve their ‘ideal’ job in this world – even if they try really hard.
- Not everyone is going to find that one special person to spend the rest of their life with, no matter how hard they search.
- Not everyone is going to experience the joys (and heartache) of being a parent – if that is on their wish list.
- Not everyone is going to be financially comfortable – no longer having the daily struggle with money.
- Not everyone is going to live a long, healthy life and peacefully pass away in their sleep.
So this idea of ‘happy ever after‘ that we all strive to achieve, is it really achievable at all? The journey of life will continue on whether we have reached the state of ultimate happiness or not.
I look at my own life as 42-year-old with four children, and sometimes I put the focus on my happiness while other times the focus is on their happiness. If I look at my life as it stands and honestly answer the 5 points above, this is my result:
- Ideal job – to be a professional blogger, representing a couple of brands which support teenage health and wellbeing – (achieved – NO)
- Special person – I’ve been happily (well most of the time) married over 17 yrs and so far looking strong – (achieved – YES)
- Children – I am lucky to have 4 beautiful (most of the time) children – (achieved – YES)
- Financial – We do alright but many weeks we will run out of money and need pay day to come around – (achieved – NO)
- Long life – Well I am only 42 yrs old, so far so good so this one is a work in progress – (achieved – IN PROGRESS)
I have 2 x YES and 2 x NO and 1 x IN PROGRESS. Am I meant to be happy half the time? Am I meant to see the glass half full? Does my happy ever after weigh heavily on the ‘IN PROGRESS’. Actually I think my happiness does depend on the final notch of living a happy, healthy life.
Everything is life is ‘IN PROGRESS’.
- ‘Ideal Job‘ – we start our work life doing menial things. After much hard work your career can take you places and you might land or create the ideal job. But will you work in the job until the day you die? Probably not – just a stepping stone until your talents take you elsewhere or you are financially able to finish work altogether.
- ‘Special Person’ – With the statistics today of 1 in 3 marriages failing, many people thought they found that special person, only to change their mind down the track. In an ideal world, both partners would take their last breath at the same time but realistically, someone must leave first.
- ‘Children’ – If your dream is to have children and you are lucky enough to have them, congratulations. However, the birth is the easy part, you are now entwined in their life forever, constantly changing and always in progress until to reach the next stage.
- ‘Financial’ – for 95% of the population, this is constantly in progress until you are one of the lucky 5% who are wealthy enough for money to mean nothing.
So maybe you can determine for yourself whether there actually is a happy ever after or whether your happy ever after in always in progress.
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