What mum says and what kids hear are usually two different things. Never before has this been more obvious than living as a modern parent with kids who don’t listen.
Most mums try hard to stay up with the trends, especially when it comes to communicating with their children. As children get older, it quickly becomes apparent that the kids are racing ahead in the communication field and it takes a lot of energy trying to keep up.
When you live in the same house as your children and speak the same language they do, how come so many times what mums says and what kids hear are worlds apart. This has become a national dilemma and any help you can give would be wonderful.
Here are some common miscommunication between parent and child that is happening all around the country:
Such a simple request and it’s not for mum’s benefit it is to help them have enough time to get ready for school.
Child hears – please stay in bed for as long as you like. I don’t care if you are late for school
Mum says – Can you please put your bowl in the dishwasher?
OK. I know this one takes a little movement from the table to the kitchen then bending over to place a dirty bowl in the dishwasher, but hey, it is their bowl.
Child hears – Leave your dirty bowl on the table darling child as I love cleaning up after you.
Mum says – Please lift the toilet seat up when you pee.
This one is my favourite as there is nothing nicer than fresh smelling pee.
Child hears – If you need to go to the toilet, pee wherever you like, I’ll take care of the mess when you leave.
Mum says – Please stop fighting with your sister/brother.
A given right? Wrong!! apparently there are two meanings for the word fight.
Child hears – I don’t want this to end until someone get really hurt.
When someone is unwell, it is natural to give them some space and let them rest.
Child hears – I hate the quietness so start shouting – oh and please keep bugging me to do stuff for you.
Mum says – Brush your teeth darling children, it is time for bed.
At the end of a long day, mum is still thinking about the healthy of her children.
Child hears – Now it is time to play with each other nicely – oh and time for a drink – oh and time to tell me you are hungry.
No explanation needed here.
Child hears – Who wants 2 lollies?
What do you say to your child that you suspect they hear very differently?