People often talk about instincts and whether you should listen to that inner voice.
When I was a teenager, I often got a sixth sense about things but very rarely would I listen to it. I was too impatient to listen to my inner voice and I if it meant I wasn’t going to have fun – I would squash that little voice with a hammer.
I am not very proud of what I am about to tell you but I am just being honest. I went through a little stage in my early teens where I was obsessed with stealing things. I would steal food from the supermarket. I would steal lollies from the milkbar. I would steal little knick knacks (now I sound old) from the $2 type shops. I would steal clothes from shops. One day I was out and on a mission to steal something. I had a feeling I would get caught but I pushed that instinct deep down and off I went. Well guess what? Yep, I got caught, Mum got called and my life turned to hell for a while.
Why didn’t I trust my inner voice? Maybe I was desperate to get a buzz out of stealing or maybe I was too young to truly understand that screaming voice in my head was trying to save me. In hindsight (lots of clichés in this post I know), I needed to get caught to stop what I was doing – but that is another story.
So when should you trust your gut feeling?
Children can be taught about what that funny feeling you get inside is like an inner voice talking to you and you should always trust what it says. If you learn to trust your gut feeling from a young age, then as you get older, you will not abuse it and make excuses to not do things. You will actually trust your subconscious, believe in yourself and avoid things that do not feel right. The worst case scenario is your gut feeling was wrong.
I have explained to my children about interpreting that funny feeling they may get in their stomach before they are about to do something. As they are getting older, I want them to always trust that feeling as it may be the only thing that saves them.
Here’s some situations when your should trust your gut feeling:
- When you think you may be in danger. Logical huh? Well too often people don’t listen to that inner, nervous voice. Walking home from party late at night. Sitting on a train carriage on your own. An unusual car sitting out the front of your house. Hearing funny noises outside then going to check. I have told my children if they think something is wrong or they are feeling nervous about a situation or person – trust that feeling and get out of there.
- When you need help. That overwhelming feeling that everything is about to come crashing down on you because life is out of control. Ask for help. People actually like to feel needed and most times want to help. If your ‘spider senses’ are screaming your about to have a breakdown, ask for help.
- First impression count. Have you ever been in a situation where you didn’t like someone when you met them? Often there is a reason and it doesn’t always have to be that the person is an axe murderer or rapist. It might simply be your personalities will clash and in the end you will constantly be hurt. It might be they are a controlling person and get you at a weak moment. Trust first impressions.
- When it comes to your children. If you think your child is sick – trust your instincts. If you think your child is different and struggling at school or socially but you can’t put your finger on it, take the steps to find out what it could possibly be. If you wake in the middle of the night and you feel like you need to check your baby – do it. The worst thing that can happen is you are wrong.
- When it comes to those who actually care about you. Sometimes we can be blinded by reality and cannot see beyond what we want to see. When someone who cares about you is trying to warn you and your instincts are screaming they are right but your heart is fighting back screaming they are wrong, believe that inner voice. They usually have your best interests at heart.
When do you trust your gut feeling?