In a world where there is so much information at a click of your mouse, it seems our teenager girls are missing out on some important information about themselves. From the outside, many teenage girls appear in control and strong but when you scratch a little under the surface, many lack self-confidence and do not know how to change this.
I don’t recall getting a lot of advice as a teenage but sometimes I wish I was given more information on growing up. Don’t get me wrong, I think some lessons in life need to be learnt the hard way, but not all. There is nothing wrong with giving advice to your daughter, to your niece, to your friend or to a young person who may have lost their way.
Teenagers don’t like to be told what they are doing wrong. In fact most adults don’t like to be told what they are doing wrong either. Sometimes by simply having a conversation, asking lots of questions and really listening to the answers, understanding why they may be lacking in confidence becomes clear.
Lacking self-confidence in teenage girls stems down to who they envisage themselves to be and who they THINK society thinks they should be – often these are two different things and that only adds to the confusion.
Helping our teenage girls who are lacking self-confidence and guiding them into adulthood with a healthy mind begins with a conversation. Here are 5 great conversation starters and confidence boosters which teach the girls about being true to who they really are:
- If you are searching for that ONE special person in this world who can make you complete, look in the mirror. YOU are that one special person, you will always be that one special person who can make your life what you want it to be. Just believe in what you see, the rest of us believe. So stop searching.
- Real friends are the ones who get the best out of you. It is wonderful having lots of friends, so choose those who want you to shine and want you to succeed no matter what.Some friends are no healthy for our self-esteem or can be the reason we are lacking self-confidence. Be the friend you would choose for yourself.
- Your mum actually does know a few things about growing up too. I’m not saying she is always right (yes Ashlea I am not always right), but asking advice from your mum is not a bad thing. Don’t ever be afraid to ask a question – if mum doesn’t know the answer you might learn something together. Mums can add another dimension to the situation.
- Having a boyfriend or partner does not create self-worth. You are not defined by the person you are with, you are defined by the person you are. Being alone is not a bad thing and does not mean you are not loved, it simply means you have not found someone who deserves your love yet.
- Don’t take social media so seriously. People only post exciting, interesting, funny, pretty or cool photos on social media so don’t get ‘real life’ confused with ‘a fake life’.Social media is only there for positive comments, positive stories and pictures and don’t get fooled into joining in any negativity. See everyone else enjoying their life can make you question your own but remember people only let you see what they want you to see.
Changing the way an entire generation sees themselves is too big to fathom. Let’s start with baby steps.