Family means everything. It is who you turn to when times are tough. It’s who you turn to when times are good. It’s what keeps you going when times are rough. So the family is important to us. We love our family and recognize the impact they make in our lives. We know they are a source of support, unconditional love, and help. It is never easy finding a family member. Whether you’ve lost touch with them, never met them, or just changed your mind about them, it’s never an easy decision. But when those family members are your birth parents, it’s something you may not want to avoid, no matter what.
Being adopted is a unique experience. Whether you’ve been adopted at birth or as a result of the foster care system, chances are you’ve already experienced meeting your biological family. However, meeting your biological family for the first time is life-changing, and there’s no telling what emotions you might feel. You may not even like who you meet, or you may find some who seem like they could be your biological parents. Regardless of what you feel, it’s important to keep a record of these events so you can one day tell your biological family and show them how special you are.
What should you feel when you find a Birth Family?
Looking for the family is like hopping into bed with a stranger. You do not know them. You don’t know what kind of relationship they’ll have with you—or you with them. And, if you’re anything like me, you’re terrified. In a state of sheer panic, you blurt out something about your unusual circumstance, and the birth family immediately opens up the lines of communication. What follows is a whirlwind of emotions, which can leave you confused, overwhelmed, and devastated. But at the end of the day, you and your birth family will be together and will create new and happy memories that last forever. That’s why you should be happy to meet them and talk to them respectfully.
Meeting your biological family for the first time can be nerve-racking. It’s normal to feel excited, anxious, or nervous, but those feelings may be intensified if you haven’t been in touch with your biological family for a long time. You may be worried about how they remember you or how you’ll react when you finally see them, but the most important thing that you can do is to have good communication, have fun, and create good and beautiful memories with them.
How to Approach a Birth Family when you find them?
Finding your birth family can be sad and overwhelming, but it helps you understand your history. Asking questions will help you feel less pressured and nervous around others as you try to understand the whys and what of adoption. Finding your birth parent can be a tough decision to make, especially if your birth parent has been estranged from you for many years. First, make sure you thoroughly research all your options, including your birth parent’s feelings on the matter and any legal or emotional issues that may arise as a result.
Finding your biological family can be quite an experience. It is a journey of discovery that will often leave you emotionally stunned. Once you have found the hidden treasure, how do you approach them? What if you fear rejection, or you don’t know how to even begin? If you recently found your birth family, you’re probably wondering what to do next. If you’re seeking a relationship with them, it’s important to approach the process with an open mind or a willingness to be open-minded. Not all family relationships work and knowing that upfront can prepare you. Relax, and keep in mind that you’re not about to line up for a family reunion. Instead, you’re about to enter a new relationship that may take some time to build but could last a lifetime.
You are not alone if you’re scared about how you might come across. Fear is a normal feeling when you embark on new relationships and can sometimes cause us to hold off on reaching out. However, this fear can hold you back from connecting with your family and discovering an entirely new part of yourself in the process, so it is worth being brave and making that effort.